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Question of Trust
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I spoke to my boyfriend that I was to see a stranger later tonight in a hotel. I was used to confiding in my boyfriend and it’s so bad he even knows the dates of my monthlies ‘cos he knows just everything about me. It wasn’t so much of a challenge to tell him that I met a guy awhile ago in one of my many outings. The challenge however was telling him that the stranger was coming to town today and I had only tonight to see him in the hotel because he was returning the next morning.

I met the stranger at a business seminar 3 months ago. He sat behind me during lecturers and we incidentally fell beside each other for lunch. He initiated a professional conversation which I found very bold. Probably because he’s not a Nigerian and he doesn’t know the law of “Don’t talk to a Stranger”. After the event, we exchanged contacts and promised to get in touch with each other to talk more often about business.

I am a finicky person by nature, and I do not leave chances. I went digging into information wherever I found anything about him. Lucky him, most result were in his favour, he was a brain in the marketing industry with plenty years of experience, very knowledgeable and he was married. I received a call some weeks later from him and I returned the call which was simply mutual.

For one moment, I didn’t want to throw the baby and the bath water away. If this guy was a successful business man, why don’t I just learn from him? I’m not saying there are no business teachers in Nigeria but an honest conversation with him on how he made it to the top shouldn’t hurt.

All these I told my Sweetheart and for the first time in my life I got a near negative response. I could taste the fear in his replies: “Why in the night? Why in the hotel room? I’m a guy; don’t you think I know what can be on his mind? Do you have to speak to him? I have someone else you can talk to”. At the end, he completed his response by being complacent. He said “Baby, I know you like me so much you won’t do anything to hurt me. Just re-assure me you love me and we will both be fine.

I understand Sweetie very well, it was a tough call for him to let his Angel slip into oblivion for some 2 hrs. Not that he didn’t trust me but he was only human and even though he didn’t say this, “He wasn’t ready to let go of what we had for 2 seconds, we enjoy every moment together”. On the other hand, I didn’t fuss much ‘cos I knew what I was going to do I had my limitations. He may not know much about gender behaviours but we females do have guiding rules which allows us to put our feet down in compromising situations.

May be if you stick around more, you may get to read the outcome of the controversial visit. And to my Sweetheart, my Angel, you will always be the one. Nothing can change that ‘cos I belong to you. Cheers!

May 9, 2008 | 4:41 AM Comments  0 comments

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The Little Things We Do
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I had my sister who is 2 years younger than me come to my house for weekend. She is a final year student studing Econimics in a Federal University situated in another State. We have not always been close to each other for sometime 'cos my parents stay further in my home town which is 5 hours drive from where I reside. Whenever she's home during the holiday, am not around. So she decided to check on me since I won't visit either.

I love famiy visits and I look forward to it. I find it very complimentary and I appreciate every visit from cousins, aunts, uncles e.t.c.

This particular visit was quite perculiar. I didn't realised I was living on the fast lane. Wake up in the morning without saying good morning to anyone before heading for work, skipping breakfasts, forgetting to reply messages and missed calls e.t.c.

It was close of business on one of those days my sister was around. She called my phone and asked if I'll like to have boiled yam and scrambles eggs when I get home. I instantly turned down the offer and told her not to bother cooking. Don't get me wrong, I didn't just take a spontanous move. I just felt I would be asking for too much. Why do I need to make her do the cooking simply because she's around and has free time.

I thought I was pretty smart by dashing into a popular fast food outlet and buying a packed meal for two. I was all smiles when I got home. I opened the door and asked her why she was going to stress herself instead of sending me a text to tell me what menu to bring home for her. She acted suprised and replied "I still cook everyday just like you used to do, have you forgotten? she replied.

Well, I just shrugged my shoulders and said "Maybe I'm currently under - utilising my skills". We had a long laugh and before I knew it, she served her own meal which she made for herself alone since I refused to accept her offer. I also served my pre-packed food and we sat at the table to eat and catch up on old times (or young times !)

She was having eggs while I was having chicken. Then nolstagia and the bad habit we shared when we were younger suddenly set in, we started nibbling at each others plate. in a spit of a second, we forgot my own plate while we concentrated on hers. Her's was suddeny tastier and more appetizing. I moved my chair closer and we started talked about everytihing. I tried to find out what was refreshing about the food but I could only figure out what I've missed.

We used to run around the house together, laugh together, make fun of mistakes and promise each other to move on, trust each other, tell tales to each othe, cook new menu together e.t.c

I also figured out that the most times we got closer was when we do the "bad habits" together like we just did by eating from the same plate, snugging into each other room after bedtime to discuss the day, check each other at individual classrooms even after breaktime is over to share brilliant test results, try to cover up each other when mum finds out a mistake and talk about the truth later e.t.c.

I didn't tell her what I experienced during the magical moment. For me, even after we did the dishes, I apologised to her in my heart. I think I've neglected her and so many other friends and family members as well. I've denied them of those meaningful moments they may never get from anyone else due to the "corporate world".

And I've also promised to bring the magic back in every little oppourtunity I have and keep the fire burning !

May 5, 2008 | 1:39 PM Comments  1 comments

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